Recently, one of my friends complimented me saying, “You’re a package of joy; people must be blessed to be around you.” And by that, as you might imagine, I was overwhelmed beyond expression. I couldn’t stop smiling. I couldn’t stop thinking about it. It had truly made my day. Consequently, this incident got me thinking about the significance of compliments in our lives.
How many of us actually take conscious efforts to compliment people around us- our family, our friends, our acquaintances, or even strangers? At times, we hesitate to do so by thinking about how the other person might react. At times, we avoid it to not be too intrusive. And at times, our ego doesn’t let us to do it. Should all this really stop us from complimenting? I believe not.
“The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions – the little, soon forgotten charities of a kiss or a smile, a kind look or heartfelt compliment.”
-Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Imagine going through a really bad day. Now imagine someone coming up to you out of the blue saying, “I love your eyes.” I’m certain that even if it’s for a brief moment, you’ll surely forget all your problems and all the things that were going wrong that day. That’s the power of a compliment, a heartfelt compliment.
Compliments give that what a person requires the most: Recognition, praise, appreciation and happiness. Simple words of admiration, spoken especially at unexpected times by unexpected people, really go a long way; more so when it is about the personality rather than the appearance! A simple “You inspire me to work harder”, “You are fun to be with”, “You make me so happy”, “You are a beautiful person”, “You are so kind”, might genuinely make someone’s day; and perhaps yours too!
So today, since it’s the ‘World Compliment Day’, I encourage you to inculcate the art of complimenting. Show people the love they deserve. Let them know how much of a difference they make in your life. Start appreciating them. Shower them with praises. Because after all, compliments are complimentary!
As I am typing these words, I’m letting go or rather overcoming one of my biggest fears: the fear of self-expression.
I have been an introvert ever since my childhood. The mere idea of expressing myself, especially in front of a large audience, makes me jump out of my skin. What if I slip up? What if people don’t agree to what I say? What if people judge me? What if people don’t like me? These questions have always daunted me; and pulled me from expressing myself freely. And this was why starting my own blog always seemed a far-fetched dream.
This brings me to “ma raison d’être” (ma-rehzon-DETre) (literally, my reason of being). Honestly, the credit to expressing myself on a platform such as a blog, goes to my friends. It is true that I have always dreamt of doing it, but it is them who gave me the courage to turn this dream into a reality.
“A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.” -Donna Roberts
Friends indeed play an indispensable role in our lives. They are our support system, our cheering squad, our chosen family. They urge us to be a better version of ourselves and motivate us to aspire for the impossible. But most importantly, they make us believe in ourselves, when we ourselves don’t.
Therefore, as I commence this journey, I would like to thank each and every friend of mine who motivated me, had faith in me and inspired me to achieve my goals. Thank you for making me believe in myself and for pushing me to go beyond the limits. I would also like to encourage you, my readers, to express your gratitude towards your friends. Tell them that they matter, tell them how they make your little world a little better each day. After all, you, your personality and your life, without them, wouldn’t be the same.
Now, coming back to my blog; Writing, in general, is something very new to me, let alone being a blogger. I’m like a chrysalis inside a cocoon, wanting to become a butterfly. So, bear with me as I share my experiences and my thoughts on things that matter to me. Also, feel free to comment or write to me on whichever platform you like (Facebook, Instagram, Gmail, Twitter). Let’s make this an exchange. Let’s begin this journey of self-expression.